Autism; Twelve Truths Doctors Probably Won’t Tell You

            When our son was diagnosed with autism at the age of three, we were given general information about autism spectrum disorder. We were also told that our son would never develop an imagination or be creative. We were set up to believe our son would always be withdrawn, have limited abilities and be dependent on others to function from day to day.

            Ten years later, our son is writing stories, constructing new designs with Legos and creating potential YouTube videos on his own. His drawings reveal a mind that is full of original ideas, detail-oriented and exact. He is partly mainstreamed in a public school, loves socializing with classmates, is able to fix simple meals on his own and has the memory of an elephant, especially when it comes to dates and historical events.

            Although I have great respect for medical personnel, I am constantly reminded that man is fallible and cannot always predict the future. God, on the other hand, is the one who has the final word. I stand in awe as I watch Him fashion my son into the man He wants him to be.

            If your child has received an autism diagnosis, don’t be discouraged. Here are twelve truths doctors probably won’t tell you about autism spectrum disorder.

1.    Autism is a spectrum. No two individuals are the same.

2.    Your child is unique. Don’t compare him to others.

3.    Each individual on the autism spectrum has his own challenges and abilities.

4.    No one can predict what your child will or will not accomplish. Only time will tell.

5.    Never say “never.”

6.    Set goals, but don’t be discouraged if your child takes longer to reach them. We all progress at different speeds.

7.    Expectations can lead to great disappointment. Love the child you have rather than the child you fantasized about.

8.    Autism is a lonely journey, yet you are not alone. Thousands of other parents are on the same trek.

9.    Learn as much as you can about autism spectrum disorder. Remember, though, these are just guidelines. Not everything you learn will apply to your child.

10. You are your child’s best and greatest advocate. You know his needs so it’s up to you to speak up in order for your child to receive the care and services he needs.

11. This child will teach you far more than you will ever teach him.

12. This child is a miracle and a precious gift from God. Love him fiercely and unconditionally.